Wake Up With Marci

Welcome to Wake Up with Marcy, a deep dive in self-discovery. I’m your host, Marcy Hopkins, and this is the space where we get real about life, transformation, and finding our true selves. Hello all, and welcome back to Wake Up with Marcy, the show where we dive deep into real conversations, radical healing, and waking up to your worth. I’m your host, Marcy Hopkins, and today we’re talking about something that impacts every one of us. Our mindset around success, abundance, and healing from within. If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of self-doubt, financial stress, or just knew deep down you were meant for more, this episode is for you. Joining me today is a special guest who has dedicated over two decades to helping people break free from limiting beliefs and unlock their true potential. AD Roberts is a clinically certified hypnotherapist, success coach, and author of a newly released book, Cracking the Abundance Code. He’s here to share tools that can help you shift your mindset, reprogram your subconscious, and step into a life of purpose and prosperity. Adie Roberts is not just a success coach. He’s a guide for those ready to transform. With more than 20 years of experience helping coaches and clients rewire their minds for abundance, AD combines neuroscience, subconscious work, and transformational coaching into what he calls the CTAC system. His book, Cracking the Abundance Code, is a blueprint for healing, clarity, and empowered living. AD, welcome to Wake Up with Marcy. Thank you, Marcy. I’m so glad to be here. I truly appreciate it. It’s awesome to to have you here. And really, mindset is everything. Absolutely. Absolutely. And and we do have so much control. And I don’t think people understand that we do have that control that we have the choice the the way that we think. But the thing is is that we have been programmed and so that is why we think in a certain way whether it’s negative or positive and we do need to rewire and shift the way that we think and you offer so many tools as to how we can do that. And I I can’t wait to dive deeper into that.

So why was this work so important to you? what sparked this path for you, this healing, coaching, and hypnotherapy path? Now, the the path itself, um, you know, as you’ve so eloquently said, I I’ve been at this for a really long time. Um, I I started off, you know, as an entrepreneur. Um, having succeeded and failed and succeeded again. Owned uh mortgage companies, real estate investment firms, and did really well. But I always found myself uh having that our sales meetings would turn into motivational seminars and and and workshops and stuff like that. And so every organization that I was connected to, I used my platform as a vehicle to empower and uplift. So, it’s always been a passion of mine to speak and to empower and um that’s just that’s just who I am where I am and have been that way for a really really long time. Um I was doing this before like coaching was a thing and uh you know we didn’t have a name for it and I I created this thing. I’m gonna call myself a success coach. And um I remember back in oh my goodness uh God I was only I was like 33 and uh I had hit this really tough place of depression and um I didn’t know where it came from honestly. You know I was doing really well. Business was going well. relationships were good, but I just hit this space and I this space and I just didn’t understand it. And you know, I I I left the country, I went away, and how I justified being in Jamaica for 3 months, I said, “Okay, I’m going to come back with a book.” And um but what I found when I got there, I I was able to unearth the the the true cause or true nature of that depression, it was that I was not living my life, but I was living my compromise. e even though I was great at finance and investments and did really really well and my clients, you know, loved what I did, there was something in me that really wanted to just focus on helping people get to the space where they could experience the best version of themselves. And so that was the actual foundation and that’s it was my own u traumatic season, my own dark night of the soul that me into that space to where I’m like there have you know there has to be other people like me and you know that first book that I wrote our spirits renewed it was really dedicated to people who wanted to come out of their dark spaces and to actually walk into the light and to be a be a better version of themselves.

I like what you said as far as your life was going well and everything looked great on the outside, right? And you really you shouldn’t have had anything to complain about or feel bad about or be sad about, but you were because something was missing for you. Mhm. And I think there’s a lot of people out there that are are living life and and I was included in that at one time that that everyone from the outside might have been looking in and saying, “Why would you be depressed? Why would you have any issues with how your life is going, but you know when something is missing?” And what I’m hearing you say, and this is what I had to do, is that instead of like going outside of yourself, you had to take a pause and go within and connect with yourself to realize that you had to create this change for yourself and connect with yourself in what your passion and mission and purpose were in this life. Absolutely. I had to. there there was no way that I could continue moving in that vein. And um cuz see I’ve always been one who who tried my best to be authentic even though you know sometimes we kind of shade our authenticity so that we can be accepted by the tribe. Yeah. And there was no way that I could continue just doing investments and finance and knowing that I had this this passion and I would see people struggling and having their moments and people were always coming to me and asking me for advice and it was just a natural process for me. So me honoring what was happening to me was was that foundation that I needed in order to take that next step to become a success coach and to empower people in a real practical way.

Yeah. We’re talking about how we’re programmed, right? And you’re you’re going to share with us how we can change and shift how our minds are programmed. One of the things that we are programmed to believe is that, you know, we go through schooling the way that we’re supposed to and then we go to college and then we’re supposed to get this certain kind of job and then you make money and and that’s just how and get married or whatever the case may be. Like that’s how we are programmed to think success looks like. Yeah. I love that we we are now having these conversations that that is not necessarily success. Um yeah, I I agree. I agree 100%. I like to say especially to the Gen Xers like myself and a few baby boomers that uh that you know that I I was raised by baby boomer and I love to say especially in my talks when I have an audience that that that’s around my age. I’m in my 50s now. The world that we were raised for no longer exists. 100%. Yep. And in order to understand this new paradigm, we have to shed the old. In order to embrace and to be successful in this season, we have to shed the old. And what baby boomers and Gen Xers were taught was success. what that looked and I mean it just like that what it looked like and and what it smelt like. Um it’s two totally different things for us and for generations behind us. Um and because I know I remember when when I told just even like with my father I remember I told him um you know my dad practiced law for 30 plus years and you know he wanted me to come into the family practice and he wanted me to you know follow that predescribed path you know go to college get a couple of degrees come back home work in a family law firm run this practice I didn’t want to do that I did not want to do that because I had been around it all my life. And so, but the programming that you speak of is absolutely true. All of us um because we’re communal by nature. Um we’re raised in our little clans, whether it’s a big clan or a small clan. Uh and that clan has a thought process. That clan created this matrix around you that says this is how you walk. This is how you talk. this is how you engage with each other. These are the types this is the type of education that you get. These are the jobs that that are available to you and this is what we expect from you and you need to govern yourself accordingly. And many of us acquies to that. We did. We just kind of we we just kind of fell right on in line. But there was always something inside of us that’s pulling in a different direction that says, you know, I want to paint. I want to draw. I want to I want to sing. I want to be be be a creator. Uh and it’s it’s very very different. So one of the toughest things a person will ever do is to have the courage to define themselves for themselves because the world already has a plan for you. The world has a dream for you and a lot of times that dream is actually a nightmare for you. And so for a person to have the courage first and foremost to step outside of that comfort zone that society has created, that box, that bubble, I celebrate anybody who has the nerve to do that because it’s not easy. It shows a lot of strength and and it is difficult.

So let’s talk about your book, Cracking the Abundance Code. Okay. And you teach people how to reprogram their minds. So, how exactly do you do that? And how can we begin even begin to reprogram and shift our our programming? Absolutely. Well, the first thing um the first thing you have to do is to understand what stories you’re holding on to that no longer serve you. You have to understand what means are you holding on to. What limiting beliefs are you wrestling with? what fears, doubts, trepidations, what do those things look like? Because you know my fears aren’t your fears. What I worry about may not phase you. So my story is going to be different from yours and your story is different from the next person’s. So one of the things that I created cuz this is actually an entire system. The book itself is like the primer. But the first thing is to assess where you are. And and when you know when you know where you are and what you’re wrestling with, what old stories you’re holding on to, then you know what you need to let go. And so the process, the first step is to do that selfanalysis. And we created a an assessment called the wealth assessment. And that wealth assessment, you know, you go in there, you take it and it gives you a score. And that score pairs you with an abundance archetype. And so and it tells you like when your next big win is. What is it that you’ve been wrestling with? What are some of the typical um society influences that you’ve dealt with? Some of the past experiences that you’ve wrestled with that have helped to create, you know, your persona, create that personality. And so once you do that, then you know where you know where you are. You know what you’re wrestling with. Here’s the thing. You have to understand that all of those things are held within your subconscious mind and that because that’s where the programming is. That’s where the programming lies.

I’m going to stop you there just for a minute. I mean, when we’re awake and our our our minds are thinking, we’re really only using like what is it 5 to 10%, right? That’s it. Everything that’s running is in our subconscious, which that subconscious, it it actually affects how we live in our daytoday. And and when we’re sleeping, when we quiet our minds, that’s actually an incredible time. And I think that’s where that hypnosis comes in, that that you can start retraining that subconscious in the way that you’re thinking. Is that correct? No. you’re you’re you’re dead on because um just like you said 90 to 95% of our life is governed truly by the subconscious mind. You know the auto the uh autonomic nervous system that part of us that everything is on autopilot that that is run by the subconscious mind. Our ego dwells in the conscious mind that 5 to 10%. You know us and our awakened state as we’re having our conversation now that is you know that is us being fully awake. And when you understand the alternate states of consciousness and what allows us to tap into the subconscious mind so that we can reprogram and recalibrate how we think because you can’t you can’t change the outcome until you change the programming just like you know just like a regular computer you know that that program is running code. It’s running code and that code is going to have an output and that output is going to be predicated by that program. And so and your programming has come from your upbringing, society, the people that are around you, the circumstances, experiences, traumas. Yes. And traumas, which that goes under family and experiences, right? It can. Yeah, it definitely can. For sure. For sure. Yeah. Yes. So you said now we got to tap into that subconscious. So how are we tapping into that? So the the way that there are many protocols that you can use to tap into your subconscious mind. The ones that I know that are most effective. Um there are three and I talk about them in um in my book Cracking the Abundance Code. Um it is number one is hypnosis. That’s going to give you access to the subconscious mind because we what we’re doing is slowing down the cycles of the brain which allows us to tap into those alternate states of consciousness. So where we go from beta to alpha to theta to delta those and it literally just shows the cycles of the brain and how fast it’s moving. So when we slow it down and we get to those alternate states of consciousness that allows us to tap into the subconscious mind and to lay the programming. Um you can also do that through meditation. Yeah. When you do um mindful meditation, you can you can slip into those alternate states of consciousness by you know by slowing down that cycle of brain doing the same process. Um the other thing is also repetition using using affirmations and speaking those affirmations over and over and over again to yourself. Um those are very very effective too. The most effective that I know is direct to direct to the point is is hypnosis. go straight to the source, lay the programming, and you’re done. Um, so that’s that’s one of the those are the three primary processes that I talk about in addressing the limiting beliefs. Cuz see, here’s the thing. In order to attract wealth and abundance and to create something different in your life, if you’re if you’re being challenged by attracting wealth, the problem is rooted in your subconscious mind. And it is in your um it’s in your fears. It’s in your doubts. It’s in all of those things that we’re holding on to. So, we have to reprogram that to recalibrate how you think because how you think, what you speak about, uh the emotions that you experience, the actions that you take, all of these things have to be in alignment vibrationally with abundance in order to experience it. So that’s the so the first part is to the first part of the book and it’s really a really simple and easy read. The book is broken out into three sections. It’s the addressing the limiting beliefs first. So we get that out of the way. You know, we help you to reprogram yourself to be more positive and to um address the negative stuff that you’ve been holding on to and letting that stuff go. And once you let that go, that opens up the gateway for you then to quantum leap into the wealthiest version of yourself. And then the third part is about the actual manifestation.

Yeah. And so like so what you’re talking about the limiting beliefs and the programming around money. So when you’re being raised, it it it’s your your family, the dynamic that you’re in is how you’re being taught to think about money, right? So initially. Yes. Initially. Exactly. So a lot of times like when you get older it’s like making money is a struggle let’s say or I I’m not worth having more than X Y and Z or what I make today. Yeah. Your financial thermostat. Exactly. or you know like me is like I I’ve always got to go to the sale rack because my grandmother I was raised a lot of time uh during my youth with my grandparents and they grew up during the depression and so then it’s like you’ve got to really be tight around your money and so I do struggle with that and I and now thankfully I’m going to say this ad and I and I think that I myself attracted something I didn’t even realize that I was going to attract in my life. But I was like, I am going to have money. I am going to live a good successful life. Like these are things that I thought of when I was younger and I just desired and and then slowly as life I’m not saying life was easy by any means. But slowly these things came into my life. And so now I’m like, hey, now that I understand manifesting and and what that means, you know, I think that I help myself along because that’s something I used to tell myself all the time is that I don’t want to have to struggle. I don’t want to have to feel this way. And I and Yeah. And so when someone one of the things that you were talking about I’d love for you just to talk about a little bit more and expand on is that energy that you know there’s a lot of people out there that are talking about it but there’s a lot of people out there that don’t understand that so much. So can you talk that about that a little bit more as far as like what you put out is what you attract.

Yeah. The the the short and skinny version of it is that we live in an energetic universe. It’s just that simple. I mean, if you you go to uh if you go back in in time to your first year in chemistry class, you know, you learn that the the smallest rudimentary element of the universe is an atom. And then, you know, that atom is broken down into particles and all that kind of stuff. But once you really get down in there, it really is just a wave. And then that wave actually is turned into a particle by virtue of your focus. I always teach my clients that where your focus goes, energy flows. And where energy flows, manifestation soon follows. What we experience as reality is truly an expression or a reflection of what is transpiring or has transpired on the inside of us. And energetically we have our hearts literally create an electromagnetic field around us. And that electromagnetic field, you know, it works in in two different ways. It receives um it repels. Well, I’ll say three. It receives it repels and it also projects. So as we as we think a particular thought that thought is a thing thought literally has weight to it. You can actually measure the weight of a thought and because of it it having weight that means it has an effect on gravity. And so as that the the heavier the thought, the more energy you give that thought, follow me. The more energy you give that thought, the the weightier it is. And if you can imagine um a beautiful blanket being stretched out and your thought being like a big like a ball placed on that blanket, it weighs the blanket down. Right? If it’s suspended in air, it weighs it down. So your thoughts, the more energy you give a thing, the more beingness it has, the more weight it has from a quantum perspective. It is literally bending the fabric of space and time and and calling things to it. So if I were to put a marble on the edge of the blanket, that thought that you have is weighing it down. So the deeper it is, it’s creating a gravity, what we call a gravity well. You place that that desire on there, that marble on the edge of the edge of the blanket, and guess what it’s going to do? is going to be attracted to the depth because it’s dipping down. Now, if your thought is light and free and and not very focused, then guess what? The weight of it is not going to be strong enough to bend the fabric of space and time. So, it’s not going to attract as fast as you would like it to. So energetically it is so important for our thoughts, our words, our emotions and our actions to be in alignment because it gives gravity and you literally bend the quantum field and you call out to the quantum field and it gives back to you what it is that you ask for. You co-create uh in this uh energetic field, this universe, and you experience the reality based upon the reflection of what’s going on inside of you. I love it. That was like the 45se secondond version and you did a great job ad I just have to say like that’s what I love because it’s not like all this woo woo stuff. I mean there is science but that proves this in this. Oh yeah. This is once upon a time it might have been considered woowoo but where we live now I mean there is quantifiable data that when you understand quantum mechanics and you don’t have to be a physicist to understand this stuff you know get you a nice book my my first introduction to quantum mechanics was actually through Deepo Troper and a book that he had written um oh goodness I’m not going to I’m not going to try to remember it right now uh creating a creating a fluence that’s what it was it was creating a fluence or something like that the A to Z to creating wealth and influence. Yeah. And it was back in the 90s and it was the first time I had heard this idea and it just made sense because I, you know, I always pride myself on, yeah, I like woo woo stuff, but you know, if you can back the woo woo stuff up with some logic and some science behind it, you got me done. You know, I’m I’m sold. And so when I understood how how quantum mechanics brings everything into our space and that we co-create with the universe, it back to your original statement, your mind and our thoughts are everything. And it cause it calls for us to really have if we can have control over our thoughts and and our emotions, then we can begin to attract and draw into our space what it is that we want and not what we don’t.

Love it. love it. So it what’s something that someone can do right now if they’re feeling stuck and so many of us don’t move forward or create the change because we live in this fear. What can they do to to just start today? I know the meditation that is fantastic. So many people out there say, “I can’t meditate.” I can’t quiet my mind. And and so yeah, what if you if you already put stopgate, how are you supposed to create the change, right? And see, here’s the tough part. You have to do the work. The action. Too many people, they want the quick fix. They don’t want to do the work. Yeah. Um and you have to this is building and and creating wealth. It is a process and a journey. Is there a shortcut? Absolutely. There’s absolutely a shortcut. But at the same token, it you have to discover, do the inner work, do the shadow work, find out what you’re holding on to. What is it that you need to let go of? Then how do you project? What are the what’s the internal dialogue that you now need to speak that will place you in alignment? so that you can experience all of the things that you want. So asking you know what can a person do today just you know my first mentor would always say um he would remind me that you know how do you eat a 10,000 pound elephant ad you know it’s one bite at one bite at a time yeah one one bite at a time and so the so you know so start so just get pen to paper and just journal write down what you’re feeling in the moment write down what it is that you want to experience and see here’s where the magic begins. And make sure you use a pencil when you do that. Yeah. And do it in real on real paper. You know, these digital devices are cool and all, but there’s something about the moment pen or or that pencil touches the paper and you’re literally manifesting that thing into the third dimensional reality. You’re birthing it. And it starts off with that list of wishes and dreams and hopes and all of those aspirations. That’s the first step is to write it down. Be aware. be aware of who you are, where you are, and what it is that you want to experience. So, that’ll tell you, well, this is how far I am from what I want. You may be you may realize that you’re a little closer than uh than you thought. Yeah. You got to have patience. Things may not go in the the path that you think it should go. Most of the time, it’s not it’s not it’s not going to go the way you think. Exactly.

And I also want to ask you about affirmations because I hear a lot of times people say that affirmations like well I don’t really believe what I’m saying right or affirmations don’t really work for me. Um and and this is something again about taking action takes time. You’re reprogramming building a muscle. So can you expand a little bit more on how affirmations really work and if you are feeling that they don’t how can you expand on how they do work? Uh one of the things uh is when you understand neuroplasticity that you know you’re you are hardwired in a lot of ways for a lot of things. So, it is because of that hard wiring that when you begin to when you just start, you know, um, speaking or using affirmations, it feels awkward. It feels funny. And guess what? Understand that that’s normal. It’s okay. So, I don’t want you to get frustrated because you’re starting to do something because what are you doing now? You’re starting to create path new neuropathways that is stretching that elasticity. Yeah. So that that neuroplasticity that you’re that that that that you’re operating under is so vital for you to do this work. So in the beginning when you look at yourself and say I am wealthy, I am healthy. I am wise. Money flows to me easily and effortlessly. It may feel awkward initially but you keep speaking it. You keep looking at yourself and you keep having that internal dialogue. It’s just like when you began to drive, when you first got behind the car, you know, but got, you know, got behind that steering wheel for the first time, you weren’t comfortable. No. No. You were afraid and you know, it took a minute for you to kind of get get into the groove. You know, when you So, so when you first started, you know, you you had to check your mirrors, you had to put on your your uh your seat belt, you you had to look all around. And now listen, I guarantee you I guarantee you you can drive your car, yell at kids in the back, drink coffee, put on lipstick, uh talk on the cell, talk on the phone at the same time, and all all while driving. Now, you may not, you know, you may not supposed to do that, but you can do it. May not like that, but yeah. Right. So, it’s the same thing. It’s the same thing with your affirmations. So, of course, just like you weren’t comfortable when you got behind the steering wheel the first time, when you start your affirmations, you may not be so comfortable, but just keep doing it and it will get you will get there. Just trust that process now. And you can quantly and and and the way you the way you show up to the affirmation is going to be important, too. I’m going to encourage you to be bold. Be bold. Be daring. You know, speak that thing. And I mean, you know, like, you know, like the kids say, you know, say it from your chest. you know, really be powerful in in your affirmations. And so, the more you do it, the better it’ll get, the easier it’ll get for you. 100%. I agree with that. And whenever I get scared or things aren’t I feel like they aren’t going my way or I don’t think I can get through something, I I always just tell myself, Marcy, you’re going to get through this. You can do it. You can do it. And I take that deep breath. I take the, you know, calm my nervous system and and just the that little bitty fix right there and it does shift the way that I think in that moment. It truly does. You have to. Yeah.

So, the CTA system, can you tell us what that stands for? And CATAC, this is the book, Cracking the Abundance Code. So, it’s just an acronym for cracking the abundance code. That’s it. C. Okay. Because it’s a long name. So, so like to keep saying the cracking the abundance code system. No, you just shortened it. Short acronym for it. Okay. Yeah, we just shortened it. So, that’s so what I did. So, again, this started off as is it’s just a book and it it it grew because I was like, okay, we need this and we need that. And so the entire so the actual entire system is is one that is centered around what I do best is hypnosis. So that system is a 21day system. It’s not a challenge. It’s not that kind of thing. It’s a 21-day road map. You actually get the road map inside of the book. But when you go to the go to the cracking abundance uh website, you actually you actually have access to do one. You start that journey by doing the uh wealth assessment. You get your score. It pairs you with the abundance archetype. You know what you’re wrestling with. Then you start your 21-day um program. And that 21 days, the the the first day you have some guided meditations. You have um you have the the first seven days. Then you each seven days you have a hypnosis program. The first one is of course moving beyond those limiting beliefs. Letting those limiting beliefs go so that you then can prepare yourself for the next seven days. And the next seven days is about quantum leaping into your wealthy identity. And that is you walking and being and living as if. And so we we go through a series of exercises and protocols and all of these things for the next for that 7-day period to help you prepare for that quantum leap. You’re visualizing everything. You’re doing you’re visualizing. You’re actually walking it. You’re you’re walking it. You’re dressing as you feel it. You’re visualizing it. Yes. Yes. So then then at the end of that 7-day period is another hypnosis session. And that hypnosis session is about quantum leaping into that wealthy identity. And I’m literally going to take your subconscious mind on a journey to take you there to where it is that you want to be from here to there to embody your version of your wealthy mindset. It’s not my version. It’s not Marcy’s version. It’s not mom or dad’s version. It is abundance according to you. And so you do that for for seven days. Um and we move into the last seven days and that is about preparing your mind for the actual manifestation of it. How do you how do you put those practices into action and how do you also do the most important thing is to let go. M because you have to let go because the more you hold on to the dream and the more you push and the more you fight, the harder it is to manifest. So I teach you to put the intention out there vibrationally align yourself with the vision that you have seen for yourself. And then once you’ve done all of this work, you’ve healed because the first seven days is about releasing those limiting beliefs and the things that have been blocking you. Then the second seven days is you actually embodying the best version of yourself. And then the last seven days as we move into the the the 21 day 21 is releasing, allowing, letting go so that everything that you have seen for yourself, you can bring into your experience. And that’s the CEX system. That’s it from from beginning to end.

So you you talk about abundance and what that really means. I mean I know it means many things but someone out there may think that that’s just money. Can you can you share other ways that we can think of abundance? Oh absolutely. Abundance is good health. Abundance is having a lovefilled home. Abundance is having children that are happy and healthy. Uh abundance can be laughter. a lot of it. Having friends that you’re you’re able to just kind of be with and be authentic around, that’s that’s abundance. That’s abundance. Having having a peace of mind, having the ability to quiet your space. That’s that’s abundance. Abundance is all around. Abundance is above, below. It’s it’s inside of us. We come from And see, this is the thing that I teach. You come from abundance. You come from a source where there’s nothing lacking. Nothing at all lacking. And because there’s nothing lacking, your design, your build is for prosperity, is for abundance. That’s why it feels so good. That’s that’s that’s why, you know, when you go to the Ritz Carlton, it feels nice to be in luxurious, you know, surroundings. It’s lovely to be at home and you have beautiful furnishings and all of those. It feels good when you’re in a beautiful garden and you’re you’re at a wonderful resort or you’re just in your meditation like I’m in my meditation suite at home. This is this is actually where I do the work. So make a space for yourself, right? Yeah. Yeah. Make a space for yourself. Make it sacred. So abundance is so many things, but it’s just and and it’s abundance according to you. And of course, abundance is financial, too. You know, finan abundance is great because it allows you to do so many things. It allows you to be a blessing to so many people. It allows you to take care of your family. It allows you to if you’re having a tough day, to have that tough day in in a much nicer environment, you selfare. I’m all about that self-care. Yeah, it’s about that self-care. So, yeah, that’s u that’s that that’s my take on it. I love it. I love it. And it’s so true. It’s so true. To have a a real well-rounded life and money does not make you happy. Yes, it makes things easier, but it does not bring true fulfillment. Nope, it doesn’t.

I want to talk a little bit when I was talking about the programming and one of the things that you brought up was how trauma affects us. And that’s one of the things that took a real toll on my life. And I used alcohol to to cope with that. And I’m now almost 10 years sober. And when I started Congratulations. Thank you. And when I started my sobriety journey, that’s when I started my healing. So I always say it’s one thing to put down the drink, but now it’s all about reprogramming and changing the way that you you live your life. So this work that you now help others with, I actually had to go through to heal from my past trauma, right? And to reprogram uh the way that I thought about myself. The first thing was the self-hatred that I had for myself, the victim role that I lived, and um you know, putting off all of the things that happened in my life. Everything looked great on the outside, but on the inside I was crumbling and managing it. Uh well, I thought with alcohol, but that that was just destroying me. So once I was able to put that down, I was able to start shifting the way that I was thinking a reprogramming and putting that action into life every single day. And I still do. I still have to. So for those that have dealt with trauma and I think all of us have dealt with trauma in some what how we’ve gotten through it. It helps us to become resilient. You know there’s no story that’s harder than another. Right? We all have something that changes the way that we think and trauma actually changes our brain. Mhm. So for those that are out there that have dealt with trauma as a child or as an adult, how can we start to know that we don’t need these substances to to mask that we do have the ability to reprogram and and heal from that trauma that we do have that we are capable and worthy of doing that.

The And when it when it comes to trauma, I’m going to I’m going to to say this. Do your best to find professional help because, you know, connect with an organization that where the people have been there and done that, you know, like um I’ve had, you know, in my in my investment days, I’ve had employees that that were a part of uh NA, that was a part of AA. And so they would always bring the, you know, these beautiful epits that were taught in in these organizations. You need support. You can’t do it alone. That’s the first thing. Um, we lie to ourselves about I can fix this myself. I can I can walk this journey alone. No, don’t don’t you don’t have to. You can try and that’s okay for you and it’s admirable if that’s something that you want to try. But I have seen the success of people who have found others that have walked the journey that you are now on and they can say, “Hey, you know what about this?” They can they they can offer um a few steps that might save you some wrong turns. So connect to people that have been there, done that. Get professional help. get um connect to organizations that have dealt with the the the journey that you’re on to to get that guidance and then be honest with yourself and those around you. it. The foundation of it is first being it first having the courage to acknowledge where you are and to be honest with yourself and to others that are around you. And then as you do that, it opens up this panacea of help because the universe is going to hear your cry and give you opportunity after opportunity to meet people to connect with folks that have been there too and that can help usher you into that place of healing for yourself. And you can’t you can do it because there many there are many people who have dealt with all types of traumas whether they be physical abuses um substance abuses um life life in and of itself you know financial trauma that’s one of the things that I talk about in the book is is financial trauma you know there are there are many of us I’ve been there where I’ve lost everything you know after you know after having all of that success you know 2008 2009 happened cuz I was in the real estate market. I was heavily invested. I owned a mortgage company. So when the market crashed, all of us, all I watched my friends lose everything. I lost everything. I lost homes, cars, the the the two things that I maintained was my integrity and my relationships. And it was my relationship. It was my connection to community, those people that helped me get beyond that moment. And I did the inner work. So, I got books, the trauma that I had. I got books. I got Wayne Dyier, Deepo Chopra, uh just, you know, all of these wonderful luminaries, Tony Robbins that that that really just kind of spoke to me though. They were my coaches. They were my coaches and they helped me to move beyond where I was into a season of of being healed. And it’s a it’s a step-by-step journey when it comes to healing. And hypnosis is a tool to heal because because when you have access to the subconscious mind as a h as a hypnotherapist, I can guide you and I can help to reframe how your subconscious mind holds the trauma. I’m not one of those therapists that like to wrap uh a traumatic experience in amnesia. Um, some some therapists do and and sometimes depending on how violent the the traumatic experience is, you may have to do that. But I like to I like to reframe trauma. I like to change the way you see it. So, and instead of it being a traumatic experience, it becomes wisdom. It becomes a stepping stool, a stepping stone for you to now walk forward and move on with your life in a in a beautiful way. That’s the way I look at it now.

Yeah. And and one of the things that I also realized is that doing the inner child work, shadow work, um just releasing the the the negative energy, I had to release that from my body that I held on to. So even though I was trying to not think about it, it still was staying stuck inside of me. And and it was uh pretty magical when I let that go. So if that’s powerful that you say that let that go from your body because most people don’t realize that energetically that trauma um often times is lodged in our physical body. That’s why many of many of us have experienced tension and stress and neck pains and back pains and all kinds of ailments in pain. Yeah. Right. In pain. So, so your physical body is is an expression of that emotional state that you’ve experienced that traum the traumatic experience that you’ve had. Many times it’s lodged not only mentally and emotionally but physically as well. So I always say silence keeps us sick. So, if we’re not good, if we’re not talking about it, if we’re living in the shame and the guilt, um, which we’ve been programmed to do, right, not to talk about a lot of these things, um, or to even understand them, we can’t heal. We can’t heal if we don’t talk about it, if we don’t get educated, if we don’t do the tools, do create the action in our lives every day.

So, if somebody wanted to work more with you, where can they find you? Well, if they wanted to work directly with me, uh you can go they could go to oasismindpa.com. That is that is my practice where I work with professional athletes. I work with seauite executives uh on scaling. I work with, you know, stay-at-home moms that are trying to um create a new experience and, you know, I I actually work with women who are going through menopause and help them to manage manage that and so they can dial that thermostat so it won’t be so hot. Yeah. Yeah. You know, so so yeah. So oasismindpa.com is definitely a way that you can contact me. I’m on all platforms, all social media. I actually still answer a lot of my own uh DMs and all those kinds of things too because I like to be engaged. I like to be connected. I I love that and and it’s all about connection. Well, AD, I want to thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, your journey, and these amazing tools uh that you’ve given to everyone listening or watching to help you to go deeper, heal, and unlock what’s already inside of them. Absolutely. So, I just going to have everything linked below. Just want to to let all of the listeners and watchers know and also to our listeners remember that your past doesn’t define your future, right? Whether you’re healing from trauma, navigating addiction, trying to to know that you’re worth the abundance and and all that you deserve in this life, your purpose, that you are not broken, and you are waking up to your worth. And I also wanted to let you know for more support with addiction recovery, please grab my book, Cast to Clarity, and join me as I MC the Shatterproof Walk in New York City on October 25th. I’d love for you to possibly be a part of my team or create your own team and let’s support each other. Let’s heal together. Thank you, Ad. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, Marcy. I truly This has been fun. I truly appreciate the opportunity to sit here and to share with you today. Thank you so much. And make sure to follow the show, share this episode with a friend, someone that needs to hear it. Drop a comment because your voice matters. So until next time, keep waking up to your worth. Wake up with courage, with love, and with clarity. And I’ll see you next week. Bye.